Bakerssecret.com says there are seven ways that baking improves your well-being; you can reduce stress, boost your mood, improve social connections, increase mindfulness, build confidence, provide a sense of purpose, and spark creativity.  I believe the same can be said about having sex. 

     According to Bakerssecret.com, "Baking Can Reduce Stress - Baking requires concentration and focus, which can help distract you from negative thoughts and worries. By focusing on the task at hand, you can let go of stress and anxiety and feel a sense of accomplishment when your baked goods are finished."

     How is this any different from having sex?  Sex distracts you from negative thoughts and worries if you let it. And when you have sex, you can let go of stress and anxiety and feel a sense of accomplishment when you are finished. 

     Baking Can Boost Your Mood - The act of baking and creating something delicious can release endorphins, the "feel-good" chemicals in your brain. This can boost your mood and make you feel happier and more content. 

     When you have sex, your body releases endorphins and oxytocin, and these feel-good hormones create feelings of relaxation and intimacy, as well as helping to stave off anxiety and depression. 

     Baking Can Improve Social Connections - Baking with friends and family can improve your social connections and create a sense of community. Whether you're baking for a special occasion or just for fun, the act of working together and sharing your creations can strengthen your relationships and create lasting memories. 

     Sex releases oxytocin (the feel-good hormone), which researchers believe is essential for social bonding and building trust. “Sex may set the stage for deepening the emotional connection between strangers,” says Gurit Birnbaum, a social psychologist and associate professor of psychology at the IDC Herzliya. “This holds true for both men and women. Sex motivates human beings to connect, regardless of gender.” 

     Baking Can Increase Mindfulness - When you're baking, you're fully present in the moment, focusing on each step of the process. This can increase mindfulness and help you become more aware of your thoughts and feelings. By practicing mindfulness while baking, you can improve your overall well-being and reduce stress and anxiety. 

     The Mayo Clinic says, "Some people are naturally good at practicing mindfulness in their day-to-day lives. These individuals are said to have innate mindfulness — also called dispositional mindfulness. Innate mindfulness has been linked to better self-care behaviors, physical health, psychological outcomes and relationships. These people consequently experience increased sexual satisfaction and improved sexual function. 

     Baking Can Build Confidence - Baking can be a challenging and rewarding activity that requires patience and skill. By mastering new recipes and techniques, you can build confidence and feel a sense of pride in your accomplishments. 

     There’s a saying that sex is like food; it’s only a big deal when you’re not getting enough of it. Thoughtcatalog.com says, "Sex is a fundamental socio-emotional function and not getting it when and how you want it can lead to a lot of angst, self-doubt and feelings of inadequacy. It’s not a coincidence that many relationships and even marriages fall apart because of an inability to meet each other’s sexual needs. Our identities and feelings of self-worth are tied tightly to it." 

     Baking Can Provide a Sense of Purpose - Baking for others, whether it's for a special occasion or just to share with friends and family, can provide a sense of purpose and meaning. Knowing that your baked goods are bringing joy to others can be a powerful motivator and boost your overall sense of well-being. 

    The National Institutes of Health (NIH) says studies show a "Higher sense of purpose in life is associated with more enjoyment of sexually intimate activities."

     Baking Can Spark Creativity - Baking is not just about following recipes, it also requires creativity and experimentation. By trying new flavor combinations or decorating techniques, you can unleash your creativity and have fun in the process. 

     In other words, sex is not just about following a societal script; it also requires creativity and experimentation. By trying out new partners or positions or involving sex toys, you can unleash your creativity and have a lot of fun in the process.    

     Women expect the man to pay for everything when they ask them on a date. When a man goes on a first date, he may hope for sex, but that is not normally what happens. When a man takes a woman on a date, he spends money on a woman who has no intention of having sex with him, who wants to be wined and dined and treated well. And this usually costs the man more than if he'd hired an escort. Neither is going to have sex with him, and he's still going to spend money. So, what is the advantage of taking a woman on a date? If a man were to hire a prostitute, he'd at least get sex, and for much less money.

    When Craigslist allowed personal ads, many people were getting sex, often with married women, for free. Men were also getting sex from and with other men. You could answer or post an ad, and within hours or even minutes, you were having sex. It was that easy. Craigslist was a Godsend for many men who weren't getting sex the usual way. And many men got to participate in gang bangs. Those were good times. Now, without something like Craigslist, many men have to either go without, go to sex clubs that allow single men, or pay for sex in one way or another. Most modern women will not go out on a coffee date because that shows the man is cheap. They want men who are "generous."

     Men are told not to expect sex on a first date, yet they are expected to spend outrageous amounts of money on a woman who has no interest in having sex with them. Where does this make sense? For many women, it is expected that a man will have to earn (spend enough) to even get to first base. Which would this be, a date or an escort, an attractive woman who will pretend to care about you, carry on a conversation, laugh at your jokes, and then make you feel like you've seduced them with your charm and wit yet not have sex with you? It could be either. Right? 

     Men will indeed pay for sex. Many women do not understand why men do this, yet many men know instinctively. Whether you take a woman on a date and then get sex or hire a prostitute, either way, you are paying for sex. Many men who hire prostitutes want sex, but many also just want someone to talk to. Not all men who hire prostitutes have sex with them. Some men just want to talk to and feel the touch of a woman. And these very same men often end up on police websites as "Johns," men who solicit prostitutes.

     Studies have shown that men who solicit prostitutes often go back to the same prostitutes time and again. For many of the men, these are romantic get-togethers with guaranteed sex if they want it. There is no fear of rejection or being thought creepy or perverted. Although there is risk involved in hiring a prostitute, many men see it as having less risk and more rewards than dating. 

     An ordinary female date might reject a man or happen to be tired, distant, or not in the mood. In contrast, prostitutes generally accept their customers unconditionally and offer intimacy on demand. Often, men go to prostitutes to deal with their psychological insecurities as well as their sexual needs. It is not just ugly men who seek out prostitutes; married men, men in sexless marriages, single men, lawyers, policemen, firefighters, bankers, and other men will seek out the services of prostitutes because there is less drama and rejection. 

     Prostitution laws are intended to protect public health and welfare (including the suppression of sexually transmitted diseases), protect minors who might otherwise become involved in the sex industry, thwart other associated forms of crime, and curb the incentive to exploit women. The ban against prostitution is said to denounce the exploitation of sexual gratification. Many people oppose prostitution because they feel it is immoral or because they feel it degrades and victimizes women. Because prostitution usually involves consensual behavior, some scholars say it should not be illegal in a society that values a right to privacy. 

     Prostitution was common in the United States through the nineteenth century. Poor women became prostitutes because it provided a source of income at a time when they had few other options for jobs. Many married women found this to be a viable source of income. Around 1910, religious groups spoke out about the immorality of prostitution and, in addition, claimed that middle-class girls were increasingly becoming prostitutes. This eventually caused legal brothels to close nationwide. Today, many women are call girls, escorts, street prostitutes, or OnlyFans models. Call girls and escorts (known as indoor prostitutes) do actually have sex with their clients and often make very good money.

     The lives and welfare of streetwalkers are much worse than indoor sex workers. As sociologist Ronald Weitzer observes, “Many of the problems associated with ‘prostitution’ are actually concentrated in street prostitution and much less evident in the indoor sector.” In particular, many streetwalkers are exploited or abused by pimps, use drugs, and are raped, robbed, and/or beaten by their clients. A good number of streetwalkers also began their prostitution careers as runaway teenagers and were abused as children. 

     In contrast, indoor workers begin their trade when they are older and are less likely to have been abused as children. Their working conditions are much better than those for streetwalkers, they are less likely to be addicted to drugs and to have STDs, they are better paid, and they are much less likely to be victimized by their clients. Studies that compare indoor prostitutes with nonprostitutes find that they have similar levels of self-esteem, physical health, and mental health. Many indoor prostitutes even report a rise in self-esteem after they begin their indoor work (Weitzer, 2012). 

     Most average men can't afford call girls or private escorts. So, they look for sex on the streets. Many say this is risky because of the likelihood of catching an STD. Yet, many women today have unprotected sex with many of the same men. Many women get into sex work because they have few marketable job skills. Yet men who seek out sex workers are often well-to-do financially. 

     Prostitution is functional for several parties in society. It provides prostitutes a source of income, and it provides a sexual alternative for men who lack a sexual partner or are dissatisfied with their current sexual partner. According to Kingsley Davis, prostitution also helps keep the divorce rate lower than it would be if prostitution did not exist. 

     According to UNM.EDU, "According to functionalist theory, prostitution exists because it serves several important functions for society generally and for certain people in society. It provides a source of income for many women who otherwise might be jobless, and it provides a sexual alternative for men. 

     Almost eight decades ago, sociologist Kingsley Davis (1937) wrote that prostitution even lowers the divorce rate. He reasoned that many married men are unhappy with their sex life with their wives. If they do not think this situation can improve, some men start an affair with another woman and may fall in love with that woman, threatening these men’s marriages. Other men turn to a prostitute. Because prostitution is generally impersonal, these men do not fall in love with their prostitutes, and their marriages are not threatened. Without prostitution then, more men would have affairs, and more divorces would result. Although Davis’s hypothesis is provocative, there are no adequate studies to test it. 

     Davis' reasoning resonates with my belief as to why more married men are seeking out married women for sex. Ashley Madison is a perfect example. Men would prefer not to have to pay for sex, yet they often have to. Even married men pay for sex one way or another. Many single men see prostitution as a cheaper and less emotionally taxing alternative to dating. Yet, other men choose to masturbate to pornography, which is even cheaper and often more fulfilling. 

     Pornography has seen a rise in popularity because more men feel less like men around women and often fear what women will do if they do or say "something wrong."  Pornography may fulfill some of men's desires, but many men still feel the urge to be with a woman, and prostitution is a viable option for many men. Many modern women "don't need no man" and are not attracted to average men who are in their league.   

     Most women are able to get sex, but not often with the men they want to have sex with.  Women have fought for "equality," and many women are now finding out what it feels like for men in the sexual marketplace. Average men are not approaching women, and women can't understand why. Men have alternatives. And many are going their own way. Women are getting employment positions where they can make decisions, and many men have to work for and under women who do not respect them. This does not cause men to want to try anymore.

     Prostitution is illegal in all states because of morality but also because women feel threatened by other women who provide men what they want for a price. Women want to be chased and put on a pedestal, and women giving men what they want for less than they would have to spend on average women is threatening to many women. Yet, many younger women have found OnlyFans to be as profitable as being a call girl or an escort without having to leave their homes. 

     OnlyFans models have found a way to continue making money off of men by simply showing off their bodies. No matter what, men will always be attracted to women. Men may not want to put in the time for a committed relationship, but a few dollars a month seems affordable and worth it to many men. If you think about it, if prostitution were legal, it would be safe, and sex would be readily available, yet women who were not prostitutes would have a tougher time attracting men.

    The major problem with prostitution is that men proudly say, "I've never had to pay for sex." And for some men, that is true. But take your average thirty-year-old man who makes an average wage. If he's getting sex, he's either getting it from a friend or a married woman, or he's paying for it. Most men pay for sex one way or another. There are times when a man gets lucky enough to find a woman who just wants to get laid, but those women are few and far between for most men.

     Society has made it shameful if a man pays for sex. Yet, if he dates a woman and spends most of his money on her and still doesn't get laid, that's respectable somehow. Men who just want to get laid are getting arrested and publicly shamed, while women are praised for not letting a man have sex with them. We live in a weird world. Women want sex as much as men do, but they only want sex with men they want to have sex with, not the men who want to have sex with them.

     Today, if you are not six feet or taller, have a six-pack stomach, make at least six figures, and have at least a six-inch cock, your chances of getting laid are slim. If prostitution were legal, all men would be able to get sex when they wanted it. Yet, even though many women are choosing OnlyFans as their profession, many women feel that men just want to objectify them. Men just want to be loved, respected, and live a peaceful life. Men don't ask for much, and they want sex just like women do, but an average man making an average salary wanting sex today is "bad."

     The #METOO movement and feminism have caused men not to want to approach or even look at women. Yet, men still seek out women for companionship and sex, and some are willing to pay for it, just not have to put up with what dating entails. Like running a race, you go directly to the finish line. You don't wander around the field. Prostitution allows men to get what they want without having to put up with women's emotions or outrageous expectations, demands, or rejection.

     Some men try to shame women who have had sex with multiple men, and some women shame men for being men. Women have sex with multiple men because they can. And if it were that easy for men, they'd do the same thing. It's all about opportunity. The higher a woman's standards, the less men she's going to attract. In a way, this can be good, but it can also be bad because by having too high of standards, many women miss out on the good men they don't want to acknowledge even exist.

     If the Government wasn't involved in marriage, and the Government wasn't involved in people's private sexual lives, there would be no divorce, and prostitution would be as accepted as same-sex relations are today. Maybe, in time, prostitution will be legal in all states. Although I doubt that will ever happen. Former US Surgeon General Joycelyn Elders thinks it makes no sense to ban prostitution simply because it objectifies women: “Why are we so upset about sex workers selling sexual acts to consenting adults?” she asks. “We say that they are selling their bodies, but how different is that from what athletes do? They’re selling their bodies. Models? They’re selling their bodies. Actors? They’re selling their bodies” (McCaslin, 1999, p. A8). 

     When people think of prostitutes, they think of streetwalkers, although women who work the streets only comprise twenty percent of prostitutes. Most prostitutes are call girls, escorts, or work in brothels or massage parlors. Now OnlyFans models can also be considered prostitutes, and the prostitutes who do not work the streets do well for themselves financially. 

     When the US Supreme Court finally invalidated all laws against homosexual sex in its 2003 case, Lawrence v. Texas, the majority opinion declared that “the fact that a State’s governing majority has traditionally viewed a particular practice as immoral is not a sufficient reason for upholding a law prohibiting the practice.” It further asserted, “The petitioners are entitled to respect for their private lives. The State cannot demean their existence or control their destiny by making their private sexual conduct a crime. Their right to liberty under the Due Process Clause gives them the full right to engage in their conduct without intervention of the government.” Although the majority opinion specifically said its decision did not apply to prostitution, a reasonable argument could be made that respect for the privacy of consensual sexual conduct also means that prostitution, too, should be legal. 

     If prostitution victimizes and objectifies women, shouldn't modeling and cheerleading be illegal? 

     Proponents of prostitution legalization argue that although many people cite the horrible lives of many streetwalkers as a major reason for their support of laws against prostitution, these laws ironically cause the problems that streetwalkers experience (Weitzer, 2011). When US prostitution was legal a century ago in brothels across the nation, brothel prostitutes were safer than streetwalkers are now. Prostitutes working today in Nevada’s legal brothels are safer than streetwalkers. 

     Whatever we might think of their behavior, legal brothel workers are relatively safe from being robbed, beaten, or raped, and their required regular medical exams leave them relatively free of sexually transmitted diseases. The health problems and criminal victimization that many streetwalkers experience happen because their behavior is illegal, and legalizing and regulating prostitution would reduce these problems (Weitzer, 2011). 

     When marijuana was legalized, it brought in a considerable amount of tax revenue. This could also occur if prostitution were to be legalized. If you think about it, the only major difference between prostitution and sex resulting from a casual pickup is whether cash money is exchanged. Although few want to admit it, people have always and will always want to have sex. Whether cash money is exchanged or dinners bought, men are paying for sex. Because men are always going to pay for sex one way or another, we might as well make prostitution legal, regulate it, and earn tax revenue from it. This way, men could get what they pay for, and women could financially benefit. Sounds like a win-win to me.

          It is true that for a woman to want to have sex, she needs to feel desired, but just because she feels desired doesn't mean she wants to have sex. A woman can be aroused, but for her to want to have sex, she has to feel the desire within herself. 

          Most men desire a sexy, beautiful woman—that's a no-brainer. Yet, most women aren't looking to be with just any man. They want someone who makes them feel desired. 

          Although modern women are more educated and often make more money than many men, they know that intellect and their earnings are not what attract most men. Whereas women will date across and up, men will date down. A young woman working at a fast food place has as much or a better chance of attracting a man than a woman who is highly educated and makes more than he does. 

          Often, men will look at a woman who is scantily dressed and be turned on by her, he may even desire to have sex with her, but he can have the same desire for his neighbor or a girl who works at the Dollar Store. Men want and enjoy sex with women. Yet, fewer women look at men and instantly think about wanting to have sex with them.

          Whether women are wearing short, revealing dresses or yoga pants and a T-shirt, they want men to desire them. They want to be noticed. Women shave their legs and armpits and put on makeup and false eyelashes to look attractive. Why does it take so long for a woman to get ready for the day? She strives for perfection. Many women falsely believe they have to be the most beautiful woman to be attractive. A beautiful face and body help, but men want women to be real.
        Men are attracted to women who are fun in and out of bed. Most men are attracted to women with soft voices, a fun and easygoing demeanor, and who are open-minded. 

          Most men know that club girls may be sexy, but they aren't looking for sex, at least not with just any guy. A number of men will look at a club girl and see her as someone they could spend a lot of money on and get nothing in return. The men who are attractive enough to get almost any woman will have sex with club girls because they can but will have little to do with them after they have sex with them, leaving the women feeling used.

          Yes. Men want and enjoy sex, but if they find a woman they can have fun with outside of the bedroom, they will find her more attractive. Most men have interests outside of sex. Contrary to popular belief, men do not always think about sex. Sometimes we think of nothing at all for extended periods of time.

          Many women today believe they don't need men, but the same goes for men; they don't need women, either. Men appreciate women who want to be with them. Men and women alike want and enjoy quality time spent with the opposite sex. 

          If you are a man or a woman looking for the perfect partner, you're not going to find one because we're human, and none of us are perfect. However, if you are supportive, fun, interested, and interesting, whatever flaws you have will be considered minimal. 

       Men are attracted to women who share their interests, even sex. Yes. Men will have sex with women simply because they can, but what most men are looking for is someone they can enjoy their life with. Men are always going to be attracted to beautiful women, but many have found that women who focus too much on their beauty have little else to offer.

          To many men, a woman's larger breasts indicate that they will sag more as she ages. Instead of looking like breasts, they will end up looking like cow utters. 

          Seeing as how most women do not like their bodies, many dress provocatively to boost their confidence without realizing that by doing so, they are saying that they are insecure and are focused on their flaws rather than who they are and can be.

          Throughout my life, I have seen women who like riding roller coasters as sexy. In the 70s, I liked the women who wore spandex pants and halter tops, but I was most impressed when they could just let go and get into the music at concerts. 

          All women have breasts and vaginas, but that doesn't make them special. What makes a woman attractive and special is her interest in what her man is interested in. 

          A woman can be supportive, but if she is not engaged and truly interested, she is not going to be attractive, no matter what she's wearing.

          Women want men to be supportive, caring, empathetic, have a job and goals, be attractive, successful, daring, and vulnerable, but you can't always have it all. 

          A guy can hook up with a gorgeous woman, but just because she's physically astonishing doesn't mean she'll be good in bed. The same goes for men. 

          Success means something different to each of us. Some women see a wealthy man as successful; other women see an alcoholic who has been sober for a month as successful. This is how people should see beauty and attractiveness. It's not about what a person looks like that matters but, rather,  who they are as people.      

     I had a friend who used to say, "A stiff dick has no conscience." I beg to differ. If that were true, men would "fuck anything that moves." Yes. Men like sex, but they want sex from the right people. Some men don't care who they have sex with. Others will only have sex with biological women. Still, others want to have sex with their wife or girlfriend. Sex for men isn't just about getting off.

      Many women feel that when a man wants to have sex with them they are degrading them or objectifying them, which is why when women ask men, "Is sex all you want from me?" it is said in a shaming tone. The funny thing is, the easier a woman is to have sex with, the less most men want it from them.

     The problem isn't that men want sex; it's who they want it with. When a man wants to have sex with a woman he is in a sexual relationship with it means he wants to have a sexual relationship, not a platonic friendship. Sexual relationships are the only place societally acceptable for a man to want sex. If he is in a sexual relationship with a woman and gets sex elsewhere, he is ridiculed and shamed, but if the woman he is in a sexual relationship doesn't give or offer him sex, what is he to do?

     Where I live, a local community paper used to publish the names and photos of men who had been arrested for solicitation, attempting to pay for sex. Whenever I saw these men's photos, I wondered how many of the men were married, and how shameful it would be for the men's wives because the community now knew they weren't having sex with their husbands.

     The paper never stated why the men were attempting to pay for sex, and they never focused on where or how the wives of the men weren't holding up their part of the sexual relationship agreement to have sex with their husbands. The paper also never stated if the men trying to pay for sex were actually looking for sex, or if they were starved for the attention or touch of a woman.

     I also wondered what the difference is between a man approaching and soliciting a prostitute and a man paying for everything on a first, third, or fifth date. At least if a man successfully solicites a prostitute he'll get sex. A marriage certificate doesn't come with that guarantee. Yes. I know and have been told that men have to earn sex with a woman, even their wife. How does a man earn sex from his wife, by giving her everything she wants? That's not a guarantee, either. 

     What I find ironic is that many people claim that Christianity and porn are to blame for men's feelings of entitlement to sex in marriages. Can a marriage be sexless and successful? It can be if both parties agree that is what they want, but that is not often the case. 

     "My body-My choice" is the term many women use to battle men's entitlement to sex in marriages. Yet, Biblically, when a couple marries, they become one flesh. Even if a couple is not religious, there is still an expectation of sex in the husband's mind when he marries. Is that so wrong?

     I've said before that my first wife asked me why I couldn't love her without having to have sex with her. As far as I was concerned we were no longer a married couple from that point. We were acquaintances living in the same house. My wife wondered what had happened to us, and to me, it was obvious.

     From the moment my wife asked that question, we no longer kissed, held hands, or put our arms around each other. Eventually, we didn't even sleep in the same bed. The fact that my first wife had threatened spousal rape didn't help, either. 

     For the next twenty-one years, my first wife and I lived as roommates. I still had to work to provide for her and her children, yet she felt that my ignoring her was something I was doing to her. I wasn't doing anything to or with my first wife for those twenty-one years other than working and sleeping and working and sleeping.

      I was impressed that she still wanted me to confide in her, provide for and protect her, and be her husband in every way other than sexually. My first wife had no problem having sex and having children with other men, but she had a problem with me not being willing to chance prison for spousal rape.

     Many women claim that men feel entitled to sex with them, but at the same time, they feel entitled to everything a man has to offer and not have sex with him. Where, other than in women's minds, does that make sense? 

     When I hear women ask, "Is sex all men want?" I immediately answer, "No. They want kindness and empathy, someone who is helpful and cooperative. They want to be with a woman who is loyal, humble, and supportive. They want someone who is warm, tender, and affectionate. Men want to be appreciated for what they do. They want a woman who is understanding, who won't emasculate them or ridicule them. What men want is a woman who wants them to be men and will allow them to be men. Sex is usually considered a bonus.

     A woman spreading her legs does not make her attractive, desirable, or even unique. Likewise, a pretty face and body do not always equal a kind and loving heart. Yet, today, having a penis makes a man a bad person. How dare a man want to have sex with someone he has spent his life with and his resources on?

     At Medium.com, of all places, a woman by the name of Cathy Reisenwitz wrote, "Men need women more than women need men." She believes that marriage benefits men far more than it benefits women. 

    Reisenwitz states that single men are more socially isolated and lonely than married men, and the opposite is true for women. She goes on to say that single men are also less healthy and happy than married men. In contrast, Reisenwitz believes single women are healthier and happier than married women, and married men earn more money and live longer than single men, while married women earn less. Reisenwitz also states that marriage extends life expectancy more for men than women.

     According to Reisenwitz, "Women file for divorce 70% of the time in the US even though divorce greatly increases a woman’s chances of ending up a single parent and/or in poverty, but not a man’s." She does, though, admit that less than a third of women who file for divorce regret doing so. The quote I like most from Reisenwitz is, "I cannot think of a single dimension on which women benefit from marriage more than men."

     Before I begin to unpack this, I want to reiterate Reisenwitz's beliefs. "I believe it’s because a wife provides so much of everything a person needs to feel connected. She probably provides even more than the people the husband is no longer as close to. But the husband doesn’t provide very much of everything a person needs to feel connected for the wife. The wife loses the same amount of social connection as the husband when they marry, but gains less from him than he gains from her."

     I will now unpack the statements of a woman who believes "demand for labor that required physical strength declined while demand for labor that required emotional intelligence and the ability to sit still and work diligently for hours increased." this is what makes women so valuable to men. 

     Let's begin with the first claim, "Men need women more than women need men." When you talk to some women about the value of men and why they need them, they will rebut that plumbers, mechanics, electricians, bricklayers, and even men who would protect them are nothing more than servants. You can hire their services, so these men have no intrinsic or relational value. The problem with that line of thinking is men can hire women for sex, too.

     Does the fact that men can hire out for sex mean that women are their servants? No. It just means that we can pay for sex if we want to. If your car breaks down, or you need new tires, do women go to their girlfriends for help? No. They take their cars to men who can do the job. Yes, they are hiring out their services, but rarely are women mechanics or people who work with tires.

     Most men do not need women to financially support them, and if they never dated or married, they would have more of their money to spend on themselves. Men do not care how much women make or what they do for a living. Most men who want to be with women want to be with them for various reasons, but not for what they can get out of them.

     Single motherhood has taught women and many men that women can do anything a man can do, and that may be for some women, but very few. Women will say, "I had to be a mother and a father to my children," but that's impossible. Women can't be a father, and a man can't be a mother. Yet, men can do a mother's job, but rarely, if ever, can a woman do the father's job. 

     I don't think single men are more socially isolated and lonely than married men. When men marry, they often have less time to be with friends or do hobbies and work more. Supposedly, single men are also less healthy and happy than married men. Actually, it is more single men who go to the gym and are happy to have free time to do the things they want to do without someone telling them they can't or have to ask if they can.

     Single women are supposedly healthier and happier than married women, which may be why married women file for divorce 70% of the time. It is said that married men earn more money and live longer than single men, while married women earn less. Reisenwitz also states that marriage extends life expectancy more for men than women.

     Married men may have made more than their spouses in the past, but in modern times, women are making as much and often more than their spouses. When wives are making less than their husbands, that is often a choice. They'd much rather raise their children than have a stranger raise them in daycare.

     I have said before during my first marriage, I thought of deleting myself daily, and study after study has shown that women (globally) outlive men by around five years. 

     "Women file for divorce 70% of the time in the US even though divorce greatly increases a woman’s chances of ending up a single parent and/or in poverty, but not a man’s." When my first wife left me, I was homeless for a year, and most of my paychecks went to child support that was not used to support my wife's children.

    Talk to almost any man who has been divorced, and you will find that they lost almost everything in the divorce. Family courts favor women much more than men. Add child support and alimony, and you have most of a man's earnings going to a woman he no longer is married to and children he may not even get to see.

     Today, fewer men are dating, let alone getting married. Many men see marriage and women as a liability. It used to be that women's value was in their ability to bear children. Women who could not give birth were not seen as less valuable; they were seen as just as valuable because of adoption options.

     Reisenwitz says, "I cannot think of a single dimension on which women benefit from marriage more than men." That is why many men are leaving the dating scene and no longer approaching women. Many men have discovered that modern women want the power of men, the responsibility of women, and the accountability of children.

     Modern women believe that marriage or being in a committed relationship with a man results in lower earnings, lower life expectancy, eroding mental health, weakened relationships with family and friends, reduced quality of a woman’s sex life, loss of libido, immediate increase in household labor, a decrease in overall happiness and freedom, and elevated risk of trauma, depression, anxiety, and exposure to abuse and violence.

     One thing I am hearing more often lately is that married women find it harder to be sexually exclusive than most married men. Many married women feel that they settled when they married. A good number of women today believe that when they are married, their husbands get free labor and more downtime, earn more, and get more sex while their wives experience a decline in libido and sexual quality. 

     Until about seventy years ago, men complained that women were frigid. Now women are complaining men don't want to have sex with them. When women emasculate and demean men, they can't expect their men to be as into them as they'd like. Men are and have been looked down on for far too long, and men have gotten tired of it.

     Men have been taught to "put up, shut up, and deal with it," and they do. Today, though, many men are going their own way because women require too much of them and give nothing in return except negativity, emasculation, griping, complaining, and when divorcing, take almost everything a man has. Studies have shown that women are usually happier after a divorce than men.

     I have to ask why wives experience a decline in libido and sexual quality, as opposed to single women. The main reason is that women who have a higher libido desire more sex with men who excite them. Women who are married to men who do not turn them on or excite them will often look for men who do.

     The decline in sexual quality often stems from boredom, in the wife or the husband. Yet, more men stay in sexless marriages than women and cheat less often. Of course, single women are happier and healthier than married women,
they're having sex with men they are attracted to without having to be accountable for their actions.

     More men are willing to forgo sex if the women they are with are feminine. I will reiterate what I said earlier. Men want kindness and empathy, someone who is helpful and cooperative. They want to be with a woman who is loyal, humble, and supportive. They want someone who is warm, tender, and affectionate. Men want to be appreciated for what they do. They want a woman who is understanding, who won't emasculate them or ridicule them. What men want is a woman who wants them to be men and will allow them to be men.

     When women are feminine, men find them attractive and want to be with them. 70% of divorces are initiated by women who feel that the men they married didn't fulfill them or make them happy. Traditionally, men are willing to lay down their lives for women because they offer something special. When women try to be men's equals, they are no longer special because men see these masculine women as men and treat them as such, which many women see as discrimination.

     To answer the question, "Is sex all men want?" you have to ask, as a woman, what more are you offering? If sex is all you have to offer a man, then that is what he will want. If you bring more to the table, then he has more to choose from. So, if you are asking if all men want is sex, you have to ask, "What more can I offer them?"   

Agreeing To Disagree

          I'd just published my second book: SEXUAL PREFERENCE SEXUAL CHOICE-A Challenge To The "Born That Way" Theory. And my wife and I were at the nudist resort where I mentioned my book to a woman we'd not meet before. She stated that she was reading a book on the difference between naturism and social nudity. This woman was in her early seventies. She told us that the book she was reading was teaching her about her true self. She mentioned that she wasn't as comfortable with social nudity as she was being naked by herself.

          When this woman asked me what my book was about, I told her that the premise was that we all make choices every minute of every day, and those choices sometimes are regarding sex. I could tell that talking about my book, or just the mention of sex, made her feel uncomfortable. I tried to tell her that what I was saying was that, even sexually people make choices. She got out of the hot tub a few minutes later.

          The man that had referred the book this woman was reading was more than open about what that book talked about and how some nudists are swingers and that somewhere in France, there is a nudist community that at night has sex parties. It was weird that this other guy talking about nudists and sex parties was okay, but me talking about personal responsibility and owning our choices made her uncomfortable.

          It wasn't until the next day that this all made sense. We saw the same woman at the hot tub the following day. She wasn't with the guy she had been with the day prior. She was cordial, but she was still a little stand-offish. She admitted the reason she left the hot tub the day before was that she disagreed with what I was saying. I asked this woman what she disagreed with. She said that her daughter would be pissed at me for what I said. She then admitted that her daughter had come out as bisexual two weeks ago, then just a week ago came out as a lesbian.

          I told this woman that was what my book was about, people making choices, even when it comes to sex. She then said that her daughter would disagree with me. When I asked this woman what her daughter would disagree with, she said, "Sexual orientation isn't a choice, you're born that way. I looked at my wife, and she just smiled and tilted her head. I tried not to laugh. I was going to try to reason with this woman, but something told me that my book, and what it was about, hit too close to home for her.

          This woman's daughter was exactly the reason I wrote SEXUAL PREFERENCE SEXUAL CHOICE-A Challenge To The "Born That Way" Theory. And I think that my book could have helped this woman better understand her daughter and the choices she had made. After this woman left the hot tub area, I realized that it wasn't the topic of my book that bothered her the most, it was that she was learning about herself, and she had her daughter's situation on her mind at the same time. Then I had to show up.

          This woman was learning about herself, and she was also trying to figure out how to deal with her daughter and her new sexual orientation. I guess that's a lot to deal with. And then to have someone come along and say that they've written a book about the same thing she was going through didn't make sense to her. This woman was uncomfortable being naked around others at a nudist resort, her daughter had recently come out as a lesbian, and I was naked, too. Where do you go from there?

          I still believe that my book could have/would have helped this woman, but she disagreed. Here was a classic case of agreeing to disagree. You can't force a person to learn something they don't want to learn. Yet, I'm still holding out hope that the next time we see her at the nudist resort, she won't mind us being nude.

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          Women into cuckolding want to please their husbands or boyfriends, and they know the best way to do that is to be the slut their husbands or boyfriends want them to be. Most Bulls are experienced men who know how to please a woman and how a cuckold relationship works. Therefore, many Bulls will push the wife's or girlfriend's limits and boundaries to enhance the experience for the couple. Wives and girlfriends into cuckolding know that a great sexual experience is what their cuckold wants and expects, and by doing more for their lovers they are ensuring their cuckold's happiness, physical pleasure, and mental stability.

          Many cuckolds see their wives or girlfriends doing more for other men as erotic sexual denial. A husband and wife may not deep kiss, or the wife may not give her husband oral sex, but she'll do both with lovers. This is and can be seen as erotic sexual denial. Often it is not the wife's or girlfriend's intent to deny her primary partner, but it happens. And the experience can be exciting and sexually satisfying for the husband or boyfriend and the wife or girlfriend. 

          In some cases, a wife or girlfriend does things with other men she doesn't do with her primary partner because the lover can do something her primary partner can't. A wife or girlfriend may have sex in different sexual positions with a lover or lovers because they have the penis length that her primary partner doesn't. Double penetration is something that can only be done if both men have longer cocks. This is not usually possible if a man has a shorter penis. A husband or boyfriend may envy the other man or other men, but he is never hurt because his wife does something with other men she doesn't do with him.

     There is also something called NRE (New Relationship Energy) that will often make a woman do more with another man or other men. Even though she may not have a relationship with the other man or other men, the same energy is there, making her want to do for them what she may not do with her primary partner. Much like humiliation is often a part of cuckolding, a wife or girlfriend doing more for other men is often another part of cuckolding that just happens. The husband or boyfriend may not get from his wife or girlfriend what other men get, but the other men likely don't get it anywhere else. No matter the reason, rarely do you ever hear the other men or the husband or boyfriend complaining.         

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    For a cuckold relationship to be a cuckold relationship, the wife or girlfriend has to have sex with other Men, preferably big cocked Men. A successful cuckold relationship consists of a couple who communicates well, and other Men who are willing to make the couple's relationship better by having sex with the wife or girlfriend.

     It is usually women who are hesitant to have sex outside their relationship because of slut shaming by other women, but once they experience what other Men have to offer, they realize it is for the best.

 Once a wife or girlfriend has sex with other Men, she usually wants sex more often. The wife or girlfriend wants to make her husband or boyfriend happy, and she knows that having sex with other Men makes him happy. Nothing compares to the look on a wife or girlfriend's face when she knows she's going to have sex with Real Men.

     Having an attitude of gratitude is important because it shifts your focus from yourself to appreciating someone else. To develop an attitude of gratitude, it’s important to surround yourself with people who also have a gratitude mindset. Today, less than fifty percent of men are getting sex regularly, and those who can get sex with another man's wife or girlfriend are often the most grateful.

     It is true that other Men will always see your wife or girlfriend at her best, and she'll be her best while she is with them. When a wife or girlfriend has sex with other Men, her love for her primary partner increases, as well as her appreciation for him. Most women in cuckold relationships understand that it is because of their husband or boyfriend that they are getting the incredible sex they're getting from other Men.

     As a cuckold, you learn what other Men can do for your relationship, and for your wife or girlfriend. It is often only when she is with other Men that you see her in a state of bliss.

     There’s evidence to suggest that being grateful, despite your circumstances, can improve every area of your life, and can bring in more to be grateful for. 

     The wife or girlfriend of a cuckold can open her mouth and legs in gratitude for what her husband or boyfriend has given her, and her lovers are usually very grateful for the opportunity to do for her what her husband or boyfriend can't.

      Grateful people have better relationships, and being able to recognize the good that someone else brings to your life can help you appreciate that person more. 

     A woman who is encouraged to have sex with other Men will often be the most grateful to her husband of boyfriend. Amid the chaos we face both in our daily grind and in our society, we all need someone to enrich our lives.

     I make it a point to always verbally, orally, thank my wife's lovers when they make love to her. I tell them that without them, our lives would not be as exciting or happy. When my wife hears me thank her lovers, it makes her want to do more for them to show her gratitude.

     Many men see it as unfair when a wife does more for a lover than she does for her primary partner, but when other Men are willing to take time out of their day to have sex with your wife or girlfriend, they deserve it.

       With gratitude, people acknowledge the goodness in their lives. In the process, people usually recognize that the source of that goodness lies at least partially outside themselves. As a result, being grateful also helps people connect to something larger than themselves as individuals. 

     In positive psychology research, gratitude is strongly and consistently associated with greater happiness. Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, improve their health, and build strong relationships. 

     Wives and girlfriends who are allowed to have sex with other Men will often show their gratitude and have sex with other Men often, or regularly, and by doing so, give their primary partner a reason to be thankful for what he has. 

     Remember that behavior changes biology. Positive gestures benefit you by releasing oxytocin, a hormone that helps connect people. Some people call it the love hormone. 

     When you verbally or orally thank your wife's or girlfriend's lover(s), they benefit from that thankfulness. After all, who doesn't like to be thanked for their efforts or just for being who they are? 

    When your wife's or girlfriend's lover(s) feel appreciated, they release something as well, which also releases oxytocin, which helps them and your wife or girlfriend feel and be more connected.

     People have reported feeling more loved and more connected to others in their lives when they routinely practice gratitude.

     When a wife or girlfriend is happy, it's obvious!

     Too often men wonder how to make their wife or girlfriend happy, and in reality, it's not that tough. Women often just want to feel appreciated and useful.

    Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough and more. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, and a stranger into a friend.  

     Gratitude is also important to forming and maintaining social relationships. When you engage with someone and express gratitude for them, they are in turn more likely to express gratitude in return. 

     The expression of gratitude is what helps us form new relationships and strengthen our current ones. Studies have shown the positive effect of a wife's or girlfriend's extra intimate relationships on a couple's emotional well-being, and it is one more added benefit of a wife or girlfriend having lovers.  

     Thankfulness is about the present interaction-Gratitude improves the long-term relationship: You may feel thankful to someone at the moment, but gratitude is an ongoing showing of appreciation in your relationships. Practicing gratitude in your relationships will bring you closer to the ones you love.  

     There is no right or wrong way to practice gratitude. 

     Gratitude should be an external expression of your own thankfulness, and many people find physical acts of gratitude increase and maintain their happiness on a long-term basis.